"We are the girls with anxiety disorders, filled appointment books, five-year plans. We take ourselves very, very seriously. We are the peacemakers, the do-gooders, the givers, the savers. We are on time, overly prepared, well read, and witty, intellectually curious, always moving. We pride ourselves on getting as little sleep as possible and thrive on self-deprivation. We drink coffee, a lot of it. We are on birth control, Prozac, and multivitamins. We are relentless, judgmental with ourselves, and forgiving to others. We never want to be as passive-aggressive are our mothers, never want to marry men as uninspired as our fathers… We are the daughters of the feminists who said, ‘You can be anything,’ and we heard, ‘You have to be everything.’"
Courtney MartinA friend shared this with me today and I found it to be very poignant, as I am at a point in my life where I find myself full of questions regarding what I want to be in my life. Career, home, socially, you name it. And with the word "anything" hanging out there in space as though it opens up all of these doors, it leaves me feeling like there so so much space to fill in. Hence the bullseye that is hit with "everything" because that is what fills up the space in the effort to be anything in life.
We hear about leaning in and it at first feels awesome and empowering like you can really be everything! But then you go back to the grind. You make it from point A to point B and back to point A. And then you go to sleep and you wake up and do it again tomorrow. Like an album on repeat. And that's when you're lucky.
Seems like some very good things have fallen into place since this post.... hopefully things just keep looking up! I fall into the same thing where I can't decide what I want to be, because I want to be everything. Then I don't feel satisfied over the things that I do accomplish, because I just want more. It's hard!
ReplyDeleteGlad to know you can relate Natalie! It's crazy- I haven't asked Justin if he feels pulled in a million directions like this, but I wouldn't be surprised if he did sometimes.
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